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Traditionally, positive thinking usually includes making repetitive positive affirmations to motivate the mind and performing daily meditation to calm the mind and body to deal with stress. All this takes time and effort and only a few people will stick to it and make a long-term commitment.

In the beginning it is common for those who have been thought to think “rationally” that positive thinking may be a nasty form of self-delusion that could ultimately clothe you into an unreality that could actually prevent success. Positive thinking does not exclude hard work and preparation however, positive thinking will be more rewarding when coupled with desire and action.

It is to be expected that there are many negative experiences occurring in life, which will affect us. An accumulation of these experiences can cause stress and inaction, which can affect our happiness, health and success. You are thinking negatively when you fear the future, put yourself down, criticize yourself for errors, doubt your abilities, or expect failure. Negative thinking damages confidence, harms performance and paralyzes action.

These negative thoughts can slip into our consciousness and do their damage unnoticed. If we do not challenge them, they can create harm and discomfort in our lives. The fist step to challenging those thoughts is to become aware of them.

Common negative thoughts:

Ø Feelings of inadequacy –”I am trained for this.”

Ø Worried that your performance is not good enough –”I am prepared to do an excellent job.” “ I am a good worker”.

Ø Any anxiety regarding things outside your control – “I have thought through any problems that might happen and I am confident I can handle them”.

Worried about other people’s thoughts about you – “I will rise above any unfair criticism with maturity and confidence.”

Mutual respect Does he or she listen when you say you’re not comfortable doing something, and then back off right away? Does he respect your opinions, ideas and interests, not make fun of them, run them down or tell you you’re wrong? Respect in a relationship means you value who the person is and would never challenge their boundaries.

Trust – Does your mate trust you to talk to the opposite sex without getting mad or making accusations? It’s okay to get a little jealous sometimes – it’s a natural response. But how you react when you’re jealous is what matters, and there’s no way you can have a healthy relationship if you don’t trust each other.

Honesty – You can’t have honesty without trust because it’s difficult to trust someone when one of you isn’t being honest or you don’t feel comfortable. Can you trust your partner enough to be yourself and not have to worry about being falsely accused or rejected? Do you feel the need to lie to keep the peace? If you do that could be a problem.

Support – It’s not just the bad times that we need our mates. In a healthy relationship, he’s there with a shoulder to cry on when you lose your job, your best friend or make some costly mistake. He should also be ready to celebrate with you when you get some great news like a major raise or promotion.

Fairness/equality – The ability to give and take is the hallmark of a great relationship. Do you take turns choosing which new movie to see, which friends to visit? Things get bad fast when the relationship turns into a power struggle, with each of you fighting to get your way all the time.

Separate Hobbies – You need to make compromises in a healthy relationship – but that doesn’t mean you should feel like you’re giving in to all the other person’s needs. It’s healthy to pursue different hobbies and interests.

Good communication – Say what’s on your mind. Never keep a feeling bottled up because you’re afraid it’s not what he’d want to hear. If he can’t take what you have to say then maybe he’s not the right person.